Monthly Archives: July 2012
Puzzle Piece
Everyone, at one time or another thinks to themselves, "I don't belong". It is a natural fear that occurs when you feel off your game or you feel as though everyone else, "gets it" but you. Even the ones that always seem to "get it" feel lost in the shuffle some days.
To me, life is one enormous puzzle. Some of us like to be in the middle of everything surrounded by everything and everyone because it makes us feel less alone.
FILM SPOTLIGHT: III
FILM SPOTLIGHT:
III is a 3D horror feature film being produced by TBA Productions, LLC; an independent 2D & 3D media production company based in Charleston, SC. The film is a hybrid of a slasher film with a creature feature twist in the vein of H.P. Lovecraft. TBA Productions is using practical effects to maximize the 3-D version of the movie and is filming a 2-D as well.
The Moment
The Moment
Pulling up in a cab at the Port Authority Bus Station, a shimmer of light in the distance caught her eye, causing her to look over her shoulder. There in the hot July sun was the one building she had dreamt about. The place where she would one day be listed as a best-selling author. A heartfelt sigh escaped her lips as she whispered to the universe “someday”. Then she spun around on her heel and walked proudly into the station knowing that someday would come sooner than later.
*Beyond Earth Series coming soon to a bookstore near you…
The Thin Line: Cruel vs.Honest
People often abuse the word “honest” and use it as a weapon to be cruel. When you truly care about someone, you can still be honest without being cruel. There is a fine line between the two and that line is called tact.
Tact:
1. A keen sense of what to say or do to avoid giving offense; skill in dealing with difficult or delicate situations.
2. A keen sense of what is appropriate, tasteful, or aesthetically pleasing; taste; discrimination.
I wrote a poem back in November of 2011 for no reason other than I was in a dark place and wanted to create something beautiful. I wasn’t looking for praise, just a little ray of light to shine down my dark path. I shared my poem with a few friends; my way of letting them know that even through my immense struggle I was hopeful. One of my “friends” responded to the poem by sending me an article about why poems shouldn’t rhyme. Really? This is when I started evaluating whether or not this person really cared about me or whether he just loved hearing himself speak. I realize now, many months later that he was the kind of person that loved success as long as he was the only one enjoying it.
I offered another “friend” a free copy of the first book I ever wrote; an accomplishment I was proud of because it also helped me out of a dark place. She replied with “I don’t want it, I’m not a big reader so I probably won’t read it anyway”. I could have replied back with how ignorant it is for her to not embrace reading, but it’s not my place to judge. “I’m just being honest,” she said after. Hmm. Honest? No, it was cruel; a cruel answer that could’ve been handled with more sensitivity. If the roles were reversed I would have probably said, “I’d love a copy, I am so proud of you”. Not promising I’m going to read it, but at least showing my support.
In another instance, I was trying on clothes and I asked a good friend of mine what she thought of my dress. She could have said, “It makes you look really fat,” which would have been “honest” but also “cruel”. Instead she said, “I think we can find something that would be more flattering for your figure”. It is the same thing in essence, but it was said with love, not malice and that really is the difference.
Lesson for the day: Always be honest with a friend, but use tact in how you speak to them, because after all if you really do care about them, then you wouldn’t say things that you know would hurt their feelings.
