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The Catalyst
In a general sense, anything that increases the rate of a process is a “catalyst”. I’ve come to accept over the years that this is one of my main purposes in life. My job, my contribution to the world. I noticed at a very early age that I would be put in the path of a certain person for reasons I didn’t understand, just to realize later that I was there to help facilitate some change in their life. Whether it be advice, inspiration, or warning; I knew once it happened that it was the sole reason.
Every once is a while I would be surprised to find out that a person who’s path I crossed would be a permanent fixture; a friend for life. Those are the ones that ended up being catalysts for me.
Have you ever found people drifting in and out of your life and wondered how you ever came to meet them? I think of certain people that I would spend days, weeks, months at a time with and then somewhere out of the blue POOF, its over. We aren’t fighting or anything, its just as if the energy in the room that bound us to each other had suddenly left. Then you never seem to be able to find time to visit or get together and you almost NEVER run into each other accidentally. Strange that you wouldn’t keep bumping into someone that you use to see all the time? You’d think having so much in common they’d be everywhere…but somehow they aren’t.
You see, I believe everything happens for a reason and everyone in your life is there on purpose. There are no accidents. Sometimes you have a boss that you can’t stand and you realize that every job you take you have the same boss (so to speak) until one day you wake up and realize that that same boss is also that parent that you never saw eye to eye with. So are you working at that job because you miss that parent? Do you keep taking those jobs to try to win over affection with said parent?
The universe to me is not as much of a mystery as it use to be because I listen very carefully. I know when I meet someone exactly why they are in my life and I am in there’s. I never tell them of course; they’d think I was nuts! But, is it really crazy to be able to foretell an outcome of a situation? I think 80% of the time the outcomes almost always obvious and the other 20% of the time it is luck or error.
So look around you often. Sometimes those people in your life that may seem annoying or needy are there for a reason and they might not be around long, so enjoy it and help them while you can; after all it is your job.
Puzzle Piece
Everyone, at one time or another thinks to themselves, “I don’t belong”. It is a natural fear that occurs when you feel off your game or you feel as though everyone else, “gets it” but you. Even the ones that always seem to “get it” feel lost in the shuffle some days.
To me, life is one enormous puzzle. Some of us like to be in the middle of everything surrounded by everything and everyone because it makes us feel less alone. Some of us like to stay out on the edge of life with minimal contact so that we don’t feel as overwhelmed or under a microscope.
Wherever your comfort zone may be, you are still a part of the puzzle. We can’t survive without you. We need you to help us keep the rhythm of the universe. You don’t have to be a famous celebrity or billionaire to be a part of the bigger picture. We are all connected and your puzzle piece is just as important as anyone elses.
Remember that during those days were you might feel small or insignificant.
Without you, we are not whole.
Treading Water
Have you ever felt like were stuck in the middle of the ocean treading water, looking around for a land worthy of swimming too? I felt like that for years. YEARS. I would leave the middle and take a risk towards a shore that seemed to offer a promising direction for me, only to find out that the land was barren; or full of pirates, traders and undesirables. Some places gave me inspiration but lacked direction. Some places pointed me into a million directions but there was no inspiration. So, I’d wade myself back into the water and begin to tread again until I got the strength back to swim to another shore.
This is what it feels like when you are lost and unaware of your purpose in life. I think a lot of people feel this way and it goes back to what I wrote about before regarding finding your inner voice. We don’t know who we are or what we are, so we listen to others for advice on what to do. “You should be a therapist”, “You should go to real estate school”, “sales is a rewarding career”, “have you ever tried nursing, you are so good with people”.
What I’ve learned over the years is simple. Just because you are good at something doesn’t mean you should do it. I’d probably be a great politician, it doesn’t mean its my calling. We get so caught up in what we CAN do, that we lose sight of what we SHOULD do or even more, what we ARE HERE TO DO. I believe everyone knows what they want to do and are here to do but are afraid to admit it to themselves or to others for fear of being judged.
I don’t need to know what color my parachute is. I am aware what I can do. What I’d like to know is the color of my soul. The color of my heart. I truly believe that EVERYONE has a purpose. Even someone awful, mean and cruel has a purpose for being here even if there only purpose is to serve as a warning to others.
Stop treading water and swim to the shore that calls to your heart. I did and after all these years, I have finally caught my breath.
